NY WEDDING RABBI LEV HERRNSON​

Ani l'Dodi v'Dodi Li

This entry has been reprinted on others' websites so many times that it's high time that I present it again here.  (First published in April 2015)

Source and Meaning of the Verse

Ani l’dodi v’dodi li—“I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine,” is excerpted from “The Song of Songs” (Chapter 6, Verse 3a).  This verse, commonly associated with Jewish weddings and Ketubot (plural of Ketubah—the Jewish wedding contract), represents half of one verse among the e...

I’ve met with enough couples and officiated at enough weddings over the years to have assembled a list of things not to forget and other things to avoid.  Hopefully this list will be of some help to you in your planning.  Mazal tov!

Don’t book your venue or other non-refundable commitments before consulting with your officiant.

I know, this sounds self-serving; it’s not.  We rabbis hate to have to say “no”, but sometimes couples will set a date, sign the contracts and only afterwa...

Writing your own wedding vows can be challenging, but it certainly shouldn’t feel like drudgery! Many couples these days want to write their own vows but, for one reason or another, one or both partners may leave the writing to the last minute.  You know you love your partner—and wish to spend the rest of your life together—so why is it so difficult to commit your thoughts and feelings to paper?  It shouldn’t be, and the following tips may be of some assistance....

Why break a glass at a Jewish wedding?

It’s a custom that’s defined Jewish weddings for centuries.  Breaking the glass is the last act—other than a kiss under the wedding canopy—that is performed in public, thus confirming the happy couple’s mutual consent to spend the rest of their lives together.  But why a glass?  Presumably a spare drinking glass was easily found at wedding celebrations, even centuries ago.  As for the custom itself, that’s a matter of history.

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Choosing a date for your wedding can be a puzzling question, riddled with complex considerations:

• Do we choose a Saturday night?

• What about Sunday? Sunday day versus Sunday night?

• Is our location available when we want it?

• What are the cost differentials when comparing specific dates?

• What about guests traveling from far?

• How much time will they need to travel?

• What will time-away cost them in terms of work and travel?

Solution?  Scheduling your wed...

Like the marriage you are about to consecrate, choosing a ketubah is an exercise in tradition, creativity, personal preference, and sometimes, it’s just a matter of love at first sight.  Your ketubah—that is, your Jewish marriage contract, should be an expression of your personal tastes (with respect to the artwork) and your aspirations for your life together (as represented by the text as it appears in Aramaic or Hebrew, and English).  Choosing a ketubah also presents the opportunit...